I have worked with hundreds of athletes. I have watched tens of thousands of lifts, successful and unsuccessful. I have helped people trudge through their personal struggles and fears and have loved every minute of it.
I have watched as people have stared at me with that look in their eyes, telling me that they are going to fail and they are right. They fail because they have told themselves that they will. They do not believe that they can accomplish the lift, the task, or conquer the problem.
They look at it and say that it is just too much.
And I ask them, constantly, why are you afraid?
“Because I might fail.”
And there is that word. That word that I am growing to hate more and more each day…might. Might is five-letter word that defeats all of us far too often.
I might fail…but I might not.
And so we accept it. We accept the failing, we accept the missed lift, the lost opportunity and the not so perfect day…all because of what might have happened.
Cue the Yoda memes and the Batman slapping Robin meme backup. Might is not a result. For my fellow Yoda fans, try is not a result.
I tried…is a cop out. If you say you tried, you are probably really saying, I didn’t succeed. The bigger question is not about success and failure, but did you stop? Did you learn? Did you grow? Are you willing to fail again? Is failure what is really holding you back?
What if success really has that grip of terror on you? What if when I asked why are you afraid you answered me honestly…Because I might succeed. Then the expectations go up. Then people want to see me do it again. If I get a PR, then the next time, I better at least match it. I got a pull-up, a muscle-up, a handstand walk for 30 feet, a best selling book, a platinum record, start and sell a multi-million dollar company…and what happens that next time you try?
Will people expect more of you? Want to see you fall from grace? Will you let it get to you? Will you get out of your own head and give yourself the right to succeed again?
So I ask again, “Why are you afraid?”
You’ll never know until you…do!