I recently wrapped up a 6 week program on leadership. It was an intense time of paradigms being broken and minds being expanded. As we reached the conclusion of the training there was a graduation and chance to invite a couple people to celebrate.
I did not want to invite anyone. I shy away from praise, spotlight, and more importantly success. I feel guilty when I accomplish something. I constantly feel like I need to hide the fact that I am growing, making progress and being successful. Somehow, I feel like celebrating my success diminishes or limits someone else’s.
This happens in many areas of life as well as in the gym. It happens. It seems like when you make progress or get better, we can pull ourselves into a shell of silence or downplay the growth out of fear that someone else will feel inferior. We downplay that we have lost 5 pounds because someone else might be struggling in that area. We downplay a new personal best in our lifts because they are not as good as someone else’s or because we do not want to make someone else feel bad.
It’s time to stop!
We worked hard to be successful and we have a right to own that success and be proud of it. We made decisions that allowed us to succeed and that might mean sacrifices were made (I’m looking at you cookie cake). We deserve to be proud of ourselves and we should invite people into that moment. Not because we are egotistical or gloating, but because we have accomplished something and we deserve to share that with people that want to celebrate us!
We are always told to learn from our failures and our faults. It’s time to do the same thing from our successes. Learn something, share what you learned and keep learning. Share the sacrifices made to be successful and learn that you can continue on the path to success. Learn how hard growth really is, and share the challenges with others, so they can know they are not alone. Celebrate your success and share your success to others know that it is possible.
And once you have celebrated, file it away, set a new goal and repeat the process. In the world, people want to be happy, they want to be asked to enter joyous moments just as much as they want to support you in the challenges and struggles. Give them the opportunity and allow yourself to be happy with your own success…celebrate those moments…use them to motivate you for bigger and better things!