I am not afraid to speak my mind, or write my mind. And there is a lot that needs to change in this day and time of #firstWorldProblems (yes, I used a hashtag). I look around the world and I just see that everyone has something to complain about. And honestly a lot of it, provides absolutely no value to anything whatsoever.
I am sorry, but we are far too selfish. We complain because something inconveniences us, and bigger than that, we demand that our needs take precedence. We want our voice to be heard, but only if others are going to see thing our way.
I am kind of tired of it. I am tired of people losing sight of genuinely caring about other people and how we can actually help them. I am tired of people not being grateful for the things that they have in the here and now. It is frustrating to walk around and miss seeing all the good we can and should be doing in the world because we are so focused on the little petty things that keep us from getting what we want or think we deserve.
I believe in giving until it hurts almost. I believe that we are called to help our fellow man, woman, and child if we are able to. AND we need to take a long hard look at how much we really are able to do. Can we give up Starbucks for a week, a month, a year to help someone else out? Can we get up a little earlier to help our spouse out? Can we stop focusing on ourselves long enough to actually care about someone else and really see their needs as opposed to seeing them as an inconvenience or burden?
If this mentality was a crime, I would be guilty. I get mad, frustrated, and irritated when something keeps me from getting where I feel I need to be. But do I need to react this way? Do I need to get angry? Do I need to react…most times, nope! Most of the time, I am just a selfish person that wants what I want and think everyone else should fall in line.
I do not want to call that human nature, but I cannot think of a different term. I want to leave my office at the time I choose so that I can get to the gym and you better not stop me. I do not care if you have a “serious problem”…I want to leave and you SHOULD KNOW this already. Yes, I just rolled my eyes at you because you are keeping ME from where I want to BE.
You want to talk about the weather…sorry I want to go and lift heavy things and throw a 20 pound ball at a 10 foot target 150 freaking times. Get out of my way.
And I hate myself for having this attitude. I hate myself for not being able to put myself on the back burner. So I work on it. So I challenge myself to not react and when I do, evaluate it. If I snap at my kids and they did not do anything…I apologize to them. If I do not focus and listen when a co-worker is talking to me, I try to go back and apologize for not showing them the respect that I expect them to show me.
I fail. I learn. I try again. I will fail again!
But we all need to have a little less attitude and a little more gratitude. We need to be thankful for the gifts that we have been given, this includes our job, even on the bad days. We need to be thankful for the friends we have and the family that we deal with. We need to show a little more gratitude for the freedoms that we have here and a little less attitude when the dominoes don’t quite fall the way that we want them to.
We need to be thankful for the situations that we are faced with because there is a lesson for us to learn. There is a challenge for us to overcome…even if it is simply telling that little voice in our head that gives us permission to react…to shut up!
So as we enter this new week, I offer you a different hashtag #lessAttitudeMoreGratitude