This might turn into a rant, but I will try to keep it pretty low key. Everyone out there that has found this blog or any other blog out there that they use for motivation wants to be better. They want to get better in all areas of life. They are seeking out some sort of motivation or lessons that click with them and help them to grow.
That is cool. I get it. I am glad you stumbled onto this site and hope that in some way, I can help you out. I am a pretty open book. With that being said, we all have to be better about being coachable. We all have to stop thinking that we know everything there is to know about life. I watch my various feeds on social media, people watch, and look around with an open mind as often as I can…and fail a lot to keep it that way…and see that we all are really good at giving advice, but really bad at taking good, quality, corrective criticism.
We will look around and acknowledge that the world needs to be more accepting, grow up, change, but we seldom look in the mirror and really accept the truth that some of that change has to start with us. We have to be open to being wrong. We have to be open up to the truth that we all have dark spots and skeletons in closets that we want to ignore. We have to be willing to ask those closest to us for advice on what we need to work on and not react when they are honest. If they are speaking the truth, and we usually know when they are, we have to accept that.
We do not get bent out of shape when our trainer or coach in the gym tells us we are not keeping our back tight on a deadlift, or makes us watch a video or our bad technique on the clean. Truth be told, we get mad when they let us continue to lift without saying something, but when it comes to who we are as people, that is a no-fly zone. It is a zone that we protect and guard and wonder why relationships start to falter and live gets chaotic.
I know this reality all too well. I am one of the best at building walls around my life. I am one of the best with the excuse “I’m doing the best I can”…and that is an excuse for me a lot. It is another way of saying, “leave me alone…accept me for who I am.” And I get that, but I have recently learned that trusting someone to be real with me is about them not accepting anything less than what I CAN be. The advice and criticism they give me are not because they do not love me, but rather it is about the reality that they do love me and know that I can be more. When I open myself up to the critique, like with my lifts, I am only setting myself up to be better and get better.
So my challenge in the new year is to accept the criticism as they come…listen, learn and grow. Here’s to making this world a better place, starting with me.