As this new year kicks off and really starts rolling, I think that I can start with a little piece of advice for you. This has absolutely nothing to do with getting a bigger squat or losing 40 pounds and in the same instant, it has everything to do with those very things. It has to do with everything that you will come up against in life.
It is not mind-blowing or mind-boggling, it is just something that we often neglect as we go through our day-to-day lives and our existence. Most of us strive to be the best at whatever we do. We want to be the best husband, the best wife, the best parent, the best friend, the best whatever…and in that struggle to be the best, we fail. We fall short of the ideal. We give into the FaceBook fantasies that someone out there is better at life than we are. We see successes all around us, and feel the burden and pressure of not living up to someone else’s ideals or not doing everything that we should (or maybe even could) have done.
So for the next year, I challenge you to learn about yourself. I encourage everyone to take a little bit of time and figure out what is really going on underneath your own hood. Learn about what makes you tick. Not just what makes you upset, but why you are upset. What really sets you off? What really gets you going? What are the key pieces that have been there when you have succeeded and what about when you have failed? And then not be afraid to share that with others. Share that with the people in your life.
Don’t react in rough situations, understand why you react and let the other parties know what the truth is. I know from personal experience that I often live in the “you should just know” world. Far too often, we are afraid to speak up and tell someone what is going on with us and we harbor it. And bigger than that, we don’t even know what caused us to be mad or upset. We just know that “THEY” did something…but we reacted. We control that reaction and we control how we behave in a situation.
So if you are making goals for this year, take a little time and learn about yourself. You are probably doing better than you think. You are probably a better spouse, parent, sibling and friend than you give yourself credit for.